Resolutions

I’ve never been a particularly goal oriented person. I don’t have a five year plan. I don’t make lists and aggressively check off each item. I’m organized but it’s not on paper. I’ve always been a go-with-the-flow person and in some ways that’s a really good thing. I’ve had a lot of amazing experiences because of my willingness to go along with whatever life throws at me. On the other hand, I sometimes wonder if life would be better in some ways, such as my career and finances, if I were more into pursuing and achieving goals.

I don’t really do resolutions – I never stick to them and I don’t see the point of trying to set myself a goal that I know I won’t reach. I don’t need the guilt. All that said, here are some reflections on 2018 and some thoughts on 2019.

2018:

  1. 2018 was the year in which I finally felt that I got my anxiety under control. There were a couple things that contributed to this including getting a good, permanent job and learning that exercising is an excellent tool in managing anxiety. As a result of that I’m sleeping better than I ever have before.
  2. I started writing my blog again. It’s been amazing. I’d forgotten how wonderful the blogging community is. I’d also forgotten how much I love to write.
  3. I read so many books that I loved.
  4. I finally learned that it’s ok to end toxic relationships.
  5. I lost some weight by making some lifestyle changes and I’m feeling better about my body than I have in a long time. I also discovered the body positivity movement and was incredibly inspired by it. It’s helped me realize that losing weight and being slim is not the key to happiness. Being happy and healthy is what truly matters. I realize that may seem contradictory. It is. It’s a work in progress.
  6. I found the courage to talk online about some issues that I’ve always shied away from before, including aging and anxiety.

2019:

  1. I hope to become more involved in the body positivity community and continue trying to be kinder to myself.
  2. I want to approach my 40th birthday with grace and positive thoughts.
  3. I want one more year with my beloved 19 year old cat.

That’s it for me! Tell me, are you a resolutions person? I’m curious!

Sunshine Blogger Award

I don’t normally do this kind of post, but I thought it might be fun to try something different. Let me know if you enjoy it! I am honoured that the lovely Kat from Femenish nominated me for the sunshine blogger award! You can find the original post here. These awards are such a great way to discover some new blogs and they are fun to write!

 

Here are the rules for the Sunshine Blogger Award:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and link back to their blog
  • Answer the 11 questions asked by the blogger who nominated you
  • Nominate 11 more bloggers and ask 11 new questions
  • Notify your nominees

1) If you only had one book that you could read for the rest of your life, which one would it be?

This is such a difficult question. I am a voracious reader and there are so many glorious books in the world. I suppose if I absolutely had to choose it would be Written on the Body by Jeanette Winterson.

2) Where would you like to travel to most in the world?

The Farallon Islands. I am obsessed with great white sharks.

3) Heels or flats?

Flats. Sadly I have a bum ankle that just won’t tolerate heels.

4) If you woke up in an alternate universe, would it be Twilight or Supernatural?

Is Supernatural a tv show? I don’t watch a lot of TV.  Definitely not Twilight because I just can’t deal with the corniness so I guess it would have to be Supernatural.

5) What is your favourite charity?

The White Ribbon Campaign.

6) If you could play any musical instrument, what would it be?

Piano. I played when I was younger and I just loved it.

7) Would you rather go bungy jumping or sky-diving?

I’ve already gone sky-diving so bungy jumping!

8) If you could have any job in the world, what would you be?

This is another really hard question! Being an archaeologist would be pretty amazing – I’m a huge history buff.

9) Imagine this: you wake up on a desert island, who would be with you? Why would you choose them?

Mr. P&P because he is just my fave. He’s also an excellent cook so I know we wouldn’t be surviving on raw grubs!

10) What is your favourite thing about yourself?

My sense of humour.

11) What are your thoughts on selfie sticks?

They’re ridiculous and a symptom of everything that is wrong with our society.

My nominees:

  1. Jennifer
  2. Tara Joy
  3. Jessica
  4. Kaycie
  5. Marinella
  6. Kirsten
  7. Gretchen
  8. Tracy
  9. Vivian
  10. Christine
  11. Miriam

My questions:

  1. What is your favourite thing about blogging?
  2. What do you find hardest about blogging?
  3. What is your favourite genre of book?
  4. What is your ride or die makeup product?
  5. What is your favourite snack food?
  6. If you could live anywhere in the world where would you choose?
  7. If you could have a superpower what would you choose?
  8. Do you prefer to spend time inside or outside?
  9. What is the number one thing you look for in a partner?
  10. If you could meet one important historical figure who would you choose?
  11. What is your favourite holiday?

Tips and Tricks for Shopping eBay

I like to shop. I live in the Yukon. These two things are not particularly compatible. Online shopping is the best thing to ever happen to me and I’ve been practicing for about 15 years. Lucky for you because I’m here to share some of the best tips of the trade!

Today I want to focus on eBay because it is an absolute goldmine. It’s a great way to create a more sustainable and responsible closet, find pieces that no one else will be wearing, and score pieces from spendy brands for a fraction of the original retail price. It’s also a great resource if you are into vintage.

So, without further blah, blah, blah, here are my top tips for scoring a great deal on eBay!

  1. Know your size. This means measurements! Shoulder to shoulder, armpit to armpit, chest, waist, hips, inseam, and rise! This is especially important when looking for vintage pieces because vintage sizing is smaller than modern sizing.
  2. Include as much detail as you can in your search. What size are you looking for? Colour, material, style, decade, fit, location, free shipping, and price, to name just a few, are all options you can narrow your search by.
  3. Check seller feedback. This is important. I only order from sellers who have 95% or higher positive feedback. I would also recommend not buying from sellers who have only sold a few items, though if they have an item you’re dying for listed then it might be worth the risk.
  4. Check the shipping costs. If, like me, you live in a remote area this is particularly important. $20 for a cashmere sweater is a bargain but not if the shipping costs $40. I tend to confine my buying to North America for this same reason. Also make sure to check that the buyer ships to your area.
  5. Shop on www.ebay.com, not www.ebay.ca. All the Canadian items for sale will still come up but, because it is the US site, the selection is better.
  6. Read the seller’s return policy. You don’t want to get stuck with something that doesn’t fit or is damaged. Make sure the seller will pay the return shipping costs, if not you lose out on that money.
  7. Try searching for misspellings. Not everybody is great at the whole written word thing. Try Madwell instead of Madewell, Parda instead of Prada, Ralph Laren instead of Ralph Lauren, the list goes on. With some luck you might just find yourself a gem and be the only bidder! Here’s a sweater that I’ve currently got my eye on and I can bid at my leisure because other buys will miss it!
  8. Save your searches. Once you have narrowed all of your parameters down to the exact item you’re looking for (for example, Gucci brown horse-bit vintage loafers size 7.5) you can save the search. You’ll receive email alerts when someone posts something that matches your search and you won’t have to reset all your item specifics when you go to do your search again.
  9. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. If you want more photos (for example, I often ask for a photo of someone wearing the item if one isn’t already posted), need more information on the sizing, fabric, any flaws, etc. ask. If the buyer isn’t willing to answer your questions then move on to the next seller. A good seller will want you to be totally happy with your purchase and will do as much as they can to ensure that happens.
  10. If you’re looking for something specific don’t get discouraged if you don’t find it the first time around. People all over the world post items everyday so chances are good that if you keep searching you’ll eventually track down what you’re looking for!

And that’s it! As with anything, with practice you’ll get better so get out there and get shopping friends!

xo,

Poutine

Deal Breakers

I’m a seasoned dater. As a single, 30-something gal I’ve had my fair share of romances, long and short. It’s taken a long time (and a lot of failed relationships) but I’ve got myself a pretty solid list of deal breakers.

In a (very) specific order:

1. Displays of temper (will.not.tolerate.);

2. Early risers;

3. Cat-haters;

4. Neat freaks;

5. Ignorance;

6. Taking more time to get ready than I do;

7. Listening to bad music.

There are many more, but I don’t have days for this post!

What are some of your deal breakers? Bad breath? Showering too little? Eating all of the cheese? Share!