Resolutions

I’ve never been a particularly goal oriented person. I don’t have a five year plan. I don’t make lists and aggressively check off each item. I’m organized but it’s not on paper. I’ve always been a go-with-the-flow person and in some ways that’s a really good thing. I’ve had a lot of amazing experiences because of my willingness to go along with whatever life throws at me. On the other hand, I sometimes wonder if life would be better in some ways, such as my career and finances, if I were more into pursuing and achieving goals.

I don’t really do resolutions – I never stick to them and I don’t see the point of trying to set myself a goal that I know I won’t reach. I don’t need the guilt. All that said, here are some reflections on 2018 and some thoughts on 2019.

2018:

  1. 2018 was the year in which I finally felt that I got my anxiety under control. There were a couple things that contributed to this including getting a good, permanent job and learning that exercising is an excellent tool in managing anxiety. As a result of that I’m sleeping better than I ever have before.
  2. I started writing my blog again. It’s been amazing. I’d forgotten how wonderful the blogging community is. I’d also forgotten how much I love to write.
  3. I read so many books that I loved.
  4. I finally learned that it’s ok to end toxic relationships.
  5. I lost some weight by making some lifestyle changes and I’m feeling better about my body than I have in a long time. I also discovered the body positivity movement and was incredibly inspired by it. It’s helped me realize that losing weight and being slim is not the key to happiness. Being happy and healthy is what truly matters. I realize that may seem contradictory. It is. It’s a work in progress.
  6. I found the courage to talk online about some issues that I’ve always shied away from before, including aging and anxiety.

2019:

  1. I hope to become more involved in the body positivity community and continue trying to be kinder to myself.
  2. I want to approach my 40th birthday with grace and positive thoughts.
  3. I want one more year with my beloved 19 year old cat.

That’s it for me! Tell me, are you a resolutions person? I’m curious!

All Day Every Day

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Based on my blog content you might think that I start each day with a full face of war paint. The truth is, that as much as I love make up, my every day routine is quick and minimal.

Here’s my five minute daily look. I always start with a good base consisting of serum and moisturizer (these change based on the season and my mood). I also never skip primer. Right now I’m using Stila Say All Day 10-in-1 HD Beauty Balm. I got it on sale at Shopper’s Drug Mart. It’s ok, but not my favourite. It’s a bit hard to smooth over the skin and smells like paint thinner.

If I’m having a good skin day I use my favourite Maybelline Age Rewind Concealer (if you haven’t tried this you should – it’s brilliant) under my eyes, on the sides of nose, and dotted on my chin and forehead. I blend that in with a damp Real Techniques Miracle Complexion Sponge, which I think is better than the Beauty Blender. Sacrilege, I know. If I’m having a bad skin day I also use a bit of foundation. At the moment I’m using The Ordinary’s Coverage Foundation. It’s really good, especially considering the low price.

I top off my base with a dusting of setting powder. I’m currently using Glossier’s Wowder, which I’ve talked about here. After powder I use a fluffy brush to sweep some bronzer over the hollows of my cheeks. I recently finished up my Physician’s Formula Butter Bronzer, which is very good. New in is Too Faced Milk Chocolate Soleil Matte Bronzer, which I will report back on (it smells like chocolate so I think we have a winner).

Next I sweep some blush over the apples of my cheeks. I use a different blush almost everyday. It’s one of my favourite products and I have quite the collection. Some of my favourites include Hourglass Ambient Lighting Blushes and Tarte Amazonian Clay Blushes.

Next up is setting spray. I’m currently using MAC Prep and Prime Matte. I won’t repurchase this because the spray is not fine enough and I don’t think it keeps oil at bay any more than any other setting spray.

Lastly, I finish off with a coat or three of mascara (I’m currently using L’Oreal Telescopic) and some kind of lippy. I have pretty dry lips so I most often reach for a gloss or balm, especially in the colder months.

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Photos via Pexels

And there you have it! A five minute face that’s natural, neutral, and work appropriate. Do you keep it simple like me or take the time to do a more elaborate make up look each day?

 

Sunshine Blogger Award

I don’t normally do this kind of post, but I thought it might be fun to try something different. Let me know if you enjoy it! I am honoured that the lovely Kat from Femenish nominated me for the sunshine blogger award! You can find the original post here. These awards are such a great way to discover some new blogs and they are fun to write!

 

Here are the rules for the Sunshine Blogger Award:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and link back to their blog
  • Answer the 11 questions asked by the blogger who nominated you
  • Nominate 11 more bloggers and ask 11 new questions
  • Notify your nominees

1) If you only had one book that you could read for the rest of your life, which one would it be?

This is such a difficult question. I am a voracious reader and there are so many glorious books in the world. I suppose if I absolutely had to choose it would be Written on the Body by Jeanette Winterson.

2) Where would you like to travel to most in the world?

The Farallon Islands. I am obsessed with great white sharks.

3) Heels or flats?

Flats. Sadly I have a bum ankle that just won’t tolerate heels.

4) If you woke up in an alternate universe, would it be Twilight or Supernatural?

Is Supernatural a tv show? I don’t watch a lot of TV.  Definitely not Twilight because I just can’t deal with the corniness so I guess it would have to be Supernatural.

5) What is your favourite charity?

The White Ribbon Campaign.

6) If you could play any musical instrument, what would it be?

Piano. I played when I was younger and I just loved it.

7) Would you rather go bungy jumping or sky-diving?

I’ve already gone sky-diving so bungy jumping!

8) If you could have any job in the world, what would you be?

This is another really hard question! Being an archaeologist would be pretty amazing – I’m a huge history buff.

9) Imagine this: you wake up on a desert island, who would be with you? Why would you choose them?

Mr. P&P because he is just my fave. He’s also an excellent cook so I know we wouldn’t be surviving on raw grubs!

10) What is your favourite thing about yourself?

My sense of humour.

11) What are your thoughts on selfie sticks?

They’re ridiculous and a symptom of everything that is wrong with our society.

My nominees:

  1. Jennifer
  2. Tara Joy
  3. Jessica
  4. Kaycie
  5. Marinella
  6. Kirsten
  7. Gretchen
  8. Tracy
  9. Vivian
  10. Christine
  11. Miriam

My questions:

  1. What is your favourite thing about blogging?
  2. What do you find hardest about blogging?
  3. What is your favourite genre of book?
  4. What is your ride or die makeup product?
  5. What is your favourite snack food?
  6. If you could live anywhere in the world where would you choose?
  7. If you could have a superpower what would you choose?
  8. Do you prefer to spend time inside or outside?
  9. What is the number one thing you look for in a partner?
  10. If you could meet one important historical figure who would you choose?
  11. What is your favourite holiday?

Knix

Today I want to talk about something a little different from my usual content – periods. Yup.

I learned all about how toxic pads and tampons are many years ago. I’m not going to go into great detail about that because Google. Trust me when I say though that they are bad news. Bad news for your body and bad news for the environment. For those reasons I decided to make my periods waste free.

For about 15 years I’ve been using the same set of washable pads and I love them. I bought them on eBay for about $20. They are made of fleece and they have snaps on the wings to hold them in place. My wallet is happy, my body is happy and the planet is happy.

I’ve also used the Diva Cup for many years.

Enter Knix. I’ve now rounded out my collection with period underwear. Genius. I invested in five pairs (full disclaimer – I ordered from the Teen section because it was a bit cheaper) and I’m so glad that I did.

From the Knix website:

“Find yourself asking, “how do period panties work?” Well, a super-absorbent pad with leak resistant backing is built into our seamless underwear. But its so thin, you won’t even notice it’s there.”

I find that I can wear a pair all day with no problems. If you have a heavier flow I still think that the underwear (I just can’t with the word panties, ugh) are a good investment because they provide back up for leaks. You can wear them over night as well. I think we’ve all probably wrecked some pjs over the years which is just the worst. No more friends, no more.

The underwear are machine washable. I just throw mine in with the rest of my laundry, wash in cold water and hang to dry. Simple pimple. They come individually packaged in reusable pouches which are super slim and great for stashing in your purse. Best of all? They look like normal underwear. Knix is the next best thing to not having your period.

Would you try period underwear?

Glossy

So often when I sit down to write the words just flow easily. It’s like stepping outside of  my life for a moment and abandoning myself to the loveliness of words.

Today is not one of those days. Writing is one of the very few things that comes easily to me and it’s frustrating when I feel blocked. I’ve been struggling to come up with a post all week so I’m going to keep it simple.

I love Clarins as a brand. I love their makeup and their skincare. They make some of my favourite glosses and that’s what I reach for most at this time of year when everything is so dry.

Clarins’ Instant Light Lip Perfectors and Lip Perfector Balms are the perfect mix of gloss, moisture and colour. They smell like vanilla cake. They’re not sticky but they do hang around for a few hours. I reach for them several times a week.

What’s your favourite lip product for this dry time of year?

Retail Therapy

Hello darlings.

When your boyfriend (who shall henceforth be referred to as He Who Shall Not be Named) cheats on you what’s the answer? Why it’s retail therapy of course! Rent be damned.

Here’s what making its way to yours truly as we speak:

A chunky cardigan. Fall is coming kittens, as sure as death and taxes.

Classic black flats. If they were good enough for Audrey, they’re good enough for me.

A sparkly tee, because I shall shine on. Brightly.

Currently Obsessed

Why hello there kittens! I’ve been without internet access for the last month and a bit so it’s been a while n’est-ce pas?

There have been some changes in the Poutine world, all of which are good. I’m the proud auntie of a gorgeous baby boy, I’m settled into a fab new apartment (would you be interested in a bit of a tour?), and I start a new job tomorrow!

Anyway, I just wanted to give you a sneaky peek of some products I’ve been crushing on lately.

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The Body Shop Early Harvest Raspberry Body Scrub. I love the idea of body scrubs but most of the ones I’ve tried leave an oily film on my skin. Not so here folks. This stuff is divine and rinses off completely so that you are left with smooth skin and nothing else! It smells like raspberry jam,  looks like raspberry jam, but it most definitely does not taste like raspberry jam.

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I obsessed over this lip balm for months before actually purchasing it. This is a total indulgence. It is tres expensive. I regret nothing. The Dior Lip Glow Color Reviver Balm works with your body chemistry to turn your pout the perfect shade of pink for your skin tone. It has a faint minty scent and is super thick and hydrating. One swipe lasts several hours. I’ve been going for minimal make-up this summer and this is the perfect finish for a glowy daytime look.

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I love bold, fluttery lashes. I think the right mascara can really make your eyes pop. Lancome Hypnose Doll Lashes fits the bill. Last night I went to town and applied about six coats. I could see my lashes from 3 feet away. Delicious. I chose the non-waterproof formula and I do find that it smudges a bit at the end of the day. All in all though I’ve been enjoying this mascara.

What are you crushing on this summer?

Hairor

Products

Sometimes people ask me how I get my curls looking defined. After giving them the stink eye because I assume they’re taking the piss, I relent and mumble something about conditioner. That’s not the whole story.

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This is me – first thing in the morning. Eek! Don’t look or you might turn to stone! Also, please ignore the ratty polish… I may have had a bottle glass of vino the night before. 

The thing about difficult hair (and I do have difficult hair – I don’t care what anyone says) is that I have no idea how to deal with it. I never have. When I get up in the morning I look like Medusa. I’m not lying even a little bit. I usually tie it back stat, but sometimes I leave it to give my roomie a laugh. They should issue an instruction booklet to curly haired children. Really.

People sometimes give me a hard time about showering every day, but a. I like to be clean (next to Godliness you know), and b. I don’t want to frighten small children always. I don’t know what to do with my hair if I don’t get it wet. I don’t flat iron it very often because it exhausts me, I don’t curl it because, well, why would I? I can’t leave it looking like a ball of frizz that I pulled out of the drain, so what am I supposed to do? The only thing I can fathom doing is getting it wet and then thoroughly dousing it with every frizz taming product I can get my hands on. I always let my hair air dry because, in spite of what every hairdresser ever has told me, diffusers make my hair frizzy. Also, I do not want to spend more than one minute doing my hair. I want to get dressed because clothes are fun, doing my hair is torture.

Sometimes I see girls who have really thick curly hair and it’s all over the place and it looks awesome. My hair is fine, this means that you only have to look at it to make the curls come apart and turn into frizz. The horror.

Anyway, what’s my point? I don’t really have one, but here are some products that help, just help mind you, nothing more.

L'Oreal Evercreme

First thing’s first my pets: condition, condition, condition, and then condition some more. In addition to the conditioner I use in the shower, I follow up with a leave-in conditioner while my hair is still wet. Right now I’m using this one from L’Oreal and loving it. It smells like caramel, yum. Since cutting my hair short again I haven’t needed it as much, but it’s a great product to dig out on those extra humid days.

Hair Oil

Next I add a couple drops of hair oil. I used Moroccan Oil for a long time, but I’ve found that, in addition to being super spendy, it’s actually a touch heavy for my fine locks. I love, love, LOVE this one from Ojon (available from Sephora) and would definitely buy it again. I grabbed the Marc Anthony Oil on a whim while at Shopper’s and I have to say I quite like it. It smells like sum sum summa-time! I find that both of these products work just as well as Moroccan Oil, if not better.

IMG_0499Lastly, I add a dime-sized amount of styling cream. I love Potion 9. I’ve used it for years, and I don’t imagine I’ll stop. It’s a cult product for a reason. I bought the Bumble and Bumble Curl Conscious Defining Creme a couple of years ago after scouring the entire city for Potion 9 and not having any luck. I don’t particularly like the Curl Creme actually. It’s really easy to use too much and end up with greasy looking locks; I also find it quite heavy for my hair and it creates a lot of build-up. I won’t buy it again.

Oribe

Sometimes at the end of the day my hair needs a bit of a boost, a refresher. I like volume. To achieve some texture I like to add a few sprays of dry shampoo, or of my latest obsession: Oribe Dry Texturizing Spray. Holycrapthisstuffisamazing. It smells great, very grown-up but not in a floral way. It just gives hair some oomf. It does create a lot of build-up, but since I don’t use it everyday I don’t mind having to wash it out. Highly recommend giving this stuff a try!

So there you have it! Now you know all of my secrets!

What’s your hair routine (if it’s rolling out of bed and sticking your glossy, straight hair in a cute pony then we are friends-off I’m afraid)?

P.S. I know these photos are all out of focus/over-exposed/under-exposed but my camera and I are still getting to know one another.

And now back to regularly scheduled programming

Hello. My name is Poutine and I’m a chocoholic.
You guys, I had horrible news the other day. The Body Shop’s Chocomania line, while permanent,  is not very popular. I believe my exact response was, “Steeeeelllllllaaaaa!” I jest, but I was tres disappointed. I don’t believe I’ve ever fallen so hard for a product line before. This stuff is divine. In addition to the dry oil, I have now purchased The Chocomania Body Scrub and Chocomania Shower Cream (they had a 50% off sale and I am only human).

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The scent is truly spectacular. I cannot get enough. It’s not sickly sweet or fake, it’s just like high quality dark chocolate. The scrub isn’t too gritty or harsh, and it leaves my skin soft as a baby’s behind. Lovely. The shower cream suds up nicely and leaves a light scent on the skin. It’s just grand.

So, my pets, next time you’re at the Body Shop be sure and pick up some of Chocomania products. They might not be around for long. Anyway, I’m off to eat whipped cream straight out of the can to comfort myself.

Happy Thanksgiving!

What’s your fave Body Shop scent?

What to do when your date is a psycho, or business as usual in my life

So today I’m going to talk about something that I rarely touch on here – my personal life! For obvious reasons (at least I think they’re obvious) I prefer to keep my offline life private, but I just have to talk about this. Dating. It’s a minefield friends. Especially in Vancouver, where it’s apparently harder to meet a man than, say, take a weekend jaunt to the moon. Anyway, I do go on dates somewhat regularly and it’s fun, very Sex and the City except that in my life the cocktails are replaced with pitchers of beer, and the designer shoes are replaced with, well, regular shoes.

A few weekends ago I had a date with a guy who, at first, seemed normal and kind of sweet. Perhaps I should have known when he showed up wearing skinny jeans…. anyway, we had a nice time and I agreed to a second date. He called me the next day (I was gob-smacked, everyone knows you have to wait three days for a guy to call) to say what a nice time he’d had – again very sweet. We texted through the following week and arranged a Scrabble date. He ended up getting sick and wasn’t able to make it, no big deal.

Then it got weird.

He texted me around midnight (a little late, no?) and he was very apologetic. I assured him that it was fine and that we could reschedule. When I told him that I wasn’t available until the following weekend he kind of freaked out and asked if I’d met someone else. I hadn’t, but after only one date I didn’t think it was any of his business. I said good-night and thought that was that. I woke up the next morning to a bunch of texts sent at 6:00 am, which were very weird. He was “desperate” to see me and wanted to hang out – at 6:00 am. I don’t think so. I told him that I thought his texts were a bit odd and left it at that. I didn’t hear from him all day, and then finally around 8:00 pm he sent me a text saying that he liked me, but was looking for something more “serious and on-going.” Fine with me. I wish him good luck and then deleted his number from my phone.

Anyway, to make a long story short, he’s continued to text me. I’ve ignored him and hoped he’d get the point. Not so. This morning I woke up to a text of a cartoon reading “Thanks for being a d!#k and ignoring my texts.” I ignored that too. Honestly, we went on ONE date. ONE. Any tips?

Have you ever had a date turn very weird?