My original idea for this post was to talk about body positivity, but I think self love and acceptance is a more accurate description of what I have in mind. The thing I struggle with most is aging. We live in a youth obsessed society. It’s think it’s common for people, especially women, to feel less and less relevant as they age. I notice this particularly within the blogging and influencer community. Everyone seems to be younger than me!
The other day I posted this photo on my Instagram account with the following caption:
This is what I wore on Friday night. I wanted a crop top to go with my high-waisted jeans but I don’t own one. In the past I would never have posted a photo like this because you can see that I’m not very trim around the middle. I don’t care anymore though because I felt great and I was happy and that’s all that matters!
Nothing particularly ground breaking, however, it received the most engagement I’ve ever had on that platform. It got me thinking. Specifically, it got me thinking about sometimes how saying something that is hard or nerve wracking can be really powerful. I didn’t say anything particularly ground-breaking or interesting but it was difficult because I had to allow myself to be a little bit vulnerable online. I’ve watched my favourite influencers do it (check out Kayla Logan for some serious self love inspiration) but never really thought about how much they put on the line while doing it. It’s not an easy thing to open yourself up to criticism.
The feedback I received was incredibly positive and supportive. It made me feel fantastic but at the same time it gave me pause because of how something as simple as admitting that my waist is not tiny resonated with my followers.
The body positivity movement is wonderful and I think we should all take part in it. The simplest way to do that is to accept yourself. I’m not saying we all have to love our soft stomachs or worship our stretch marks or grey hair or wrinkles. All I’m saying is that we have to accept them. They are normal and nothing to be ashamed of. So next time you see a photo of yourself and think “I don’t want to post this”, I encourage you to put the negative self talk out of your mind, slap that photo on your Instagram feed and own it!
Outfit details: tee shirt – vintage; jeans – Levi’s